Many of us get used to things that we truly don't deserve. Personally I hate settling and lowering my standards in all aspects of life whether it be settling with an outfit, car or guy that truly doesn't deserve me, I have promised myself to always stick to my standards and never settle. Most of my friends see it as having too many standards or possibly even thinking too highly of myself, but it's not about that. It's about respecting yourself enough to know you deserve better, and that you're worth more. For example: it's your birthday, and you have been dying to treat yourself to a beautiful day at the beach or massage session, but your significant other doesn't want to accompany you due to the fact that he or she isn't really into whatever you have planned and would rather stay home. UM, Bye? It's your birthday, instead of planning your day around them, the day should be about you. Many of you may read this and think obviously you would just choose someone else to go with, but many girls sad to say don't think that way, they would rather lower their standards and settle for whatever agenda their significant other has planned. Im no relationship expert, but I do know that settling and lowering your standards will only set you back and hurt you in the road ahead.
Things to keep in mind when you're in a relationship:
- There has to be compromise. It can't always be your way, just as it can't always be his way.
- Don't ever settle based on the fact that you're afraid you won't have the chance to meet someone new or someone who could love you more, because you can.
- If you're accustomed to a certain lifestyle because you've worked hard and you deserve it, don't apologize and feel guilty. You just need to meet someone who's on the same level and shares the same lifestyle.
- Do you. At the end of the day if someone can't accept you for who you are then it's time to move on and focus on you and the right guy or better yet the guy who is gonna treat you right will come (or so I've heard).
I know this topic will be very controversial for some people as they might not see where I'm coming from, but for those of you who do, I salute you, and as the classy, Coco Chanel once said "Keep your Heels, Head, and Standards High"